30 Days of kink: Day 19: Life improvements
Day 19: Any unexpected ways kink has improved your life? If so, what are they?
I think, on a few occasions, it’s helped me steer clear of some relationships, and that’s been good. Really submissive people who, I think, largely saw me as a means with which to get off— along the lines of fetishization.
I think their thought processes were something like- “You’re a dom? Oh, yes, be in charge of sex, which is what we should do now”— when that’s not how that works.
It’s brought me closer to a lot of my friends— a lot of them have their respective kinks themselves, and it’s fun to talk about.
I think it’s also helped me be an open-minded and introspective person, and I always do my best to dismantle kink-shaming or kink-fascination in conversation.
(Source: autoerotics)
(Source: i-masculine, via lovejustlied)
•MELOLAGNIA•
sexual arousal caused by the
playing and/or listening of/to music
Ah, so there’s a word for it.
I’m browsing pictures of erotic things involving blood now.
I just think it’s just pretty.
I could understand me liking blood on someone’s face, perhaps, on occasion, but I am wholly uninterested in any injury to produce it.
I can’t tell if I just think blood is really pretty or if I think it’s kind of sexy? My confusion about the matter seems to point towards the latter. Perhaps it depends on the situation.
(Source: bdsmsadomasochism)
30 Days of kink: Day 18: Pet Peeves
Day 18: Any kinky/BDSM pet peeves? If so, what are they?
YES.
The daddy/master, baby/slave titles.
Where does that leave people of color who are really really close to the master/slave dynamic in a cultural sense? Especially in the Americas.
Where does that leave victims of sexual assault, rape, and sexual or sexualized violence? Or those forced into sex work?
Where does that leave victims of sexual abuse, especially child sexual abuse?
That isn’t kinky at all to me.
The daddy/baby/child bullshit is a glorification of the perversion of a relationship that is supposed to be healthy, in which boundaries are respected, and there isn’t an abuse of power.
And the master/slave aspect, you could use different words to express what you mean.
It’s very important that in BDSM and kink all parties involved have bodily autonomy and boundaries that are respected and allowed to be communicated.
What I see a lot of, hidden behind the ‘spicy’ titles of daddy/baby and master/slave, is demeaning and abusive behavior towards Submissives.
Or consensual but problematic things that should be looked at and thought about instead of just encouraged. You can engage in BDSM without degrading yourself as a person— this means outside of a scene or shaming or degradation for pleasure— it’s important that the lines aren’t blurred, and that communication, consent, care, and respect are a large part of the relationship.
I can’t stop people from using those words, but I would strongly encourage you don’t. Because words are powerful, and they come with associations and connections that you might not intend, but are there nonetheless. You can’t evaluate your kinks outside of a vacuum, especially as a dom/domme, when your responsibility is to make sure your sub is cared for in a healthy way that isn’t in any way abusive or psychologically scarring.
(Source: autoerotics)
Daikichi Amano
30 Days of kink: Day 17: Misconceptions?
Day 17: What misconception about kinky people would you most like to clear up?
That Doms want to hurt people?
It’s more of a power dynamic thing where you’re the caretaker/ one in charge of providing or denying pleasure.
I dunno, people have tended to think I want to inflict bodily harm on them because I’m a dom? But that’s not sadomasochism, which, is fine in itself, but it’s about pleasure more than pain, or pleasure from the pain?
I don’t want to hurt people, I just want to push their buttons, boss them around, and scare them in a consensual and playful manner in which the ultimate goal is making them happy and taking care of them as best I can.
I’m a really loving and caring partner— the way I prefer to show that would be different from vanilla relationships, is all.
(Source: autoerotics)
I miss doing burlesque. I need to try to get back into it in the next year.
(Source: burlesque-performers, via lovejustlied)
His proboscis snakes to my insides and the soft probing against my inner wall makes me shudder in ecstasy like never before.
I moan loudly, grinding my torso against his thorax gently holding my body down reversed to his in a 69 like position. My open mouth is invaded by his oviduct which begins depositing soft warm palish eggs into my throat.
I taste each smooth egg as they glide over my tongue. I’ve waited so long for this moment. Soon they will begin to buzz inside of me. Soon I will be consumed.
